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Your Gay​-​Bashing Friend

from Social Creatures by Blood Bags

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One time I was out of town and at a party where I knew the host but hardly anyone else. Most of the guests were work friends that my friend made after moving for a new job. I complimented this one guy on his outfit, and he said "yeah, not to be all, you know, but I put a lot of thought into it." And when he said "you know," he did that thing where he, like, held his hand up straight and then went limp in the wrist. I didn't know what to say. Was he joking? Was he just fucking with me to see what I would say? Or was I encountering an actual homophobe? I didn't want to cause a scene at my friend's party, and I just KNEW that anything I said would've been met with the standard kneejerk "what, I totally have gay friends" horseshit that would make me look like a killjoy, or worse yet, a censor. But I felt like I should've said something anyway. I just didn't know what. By the time I realized I should've just asked him what he meant and reacted accordingly to his answer, too much time had passed. So I walked away and felt angry. Angry at this douche for putting me in that situation, angry at my friend for inviting this douche to his party and, more than anything, angry at myself for not knowing what to say.

This is a song about that experience, and how it made me realize that it's really easy to stick to your guns and your principles in a vacuum, when you're surrounded with like-minded people, but that a lot of the time when you're outside of your normal social sphere and you encounter some kind of offensive bullshit it's hard to know what to do about it. Not because you're a wimp or whatever, but because social interaction with strangers is hard enough as it is when they're NOT being dicks.

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Thought it might be a joke but no it's serious
Why would you invite an asshole like this?
Now I feel like a complete hypocrite
for not calling this fucking jerk on his shit

And I thought that you might feel that way too
I know we lost touch, but Jesus dude
I'm just a guest so I don't want to be rude
but there's something that I need you to do

Tell him to go fuck himself
Tell him to go fuck himself
And I can go fuck myself
for not telling him myself

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from Social Creatures, released April 26, 2014

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